It's best to walk away from this.
It’s probably a universal truth at this point that breakups and heartaches are incredibly devastating emotional ordeals. But sometimes, well, a lot of times, there’s just no avoiding them. There are so many instances of couples getting into relationships despite the fact that they’re just not meant to be with each other. There are lots of relationships that go up in flames for a number of possible reasons and that’s just something that people are always going to have to live with. It can be hard to pinpoint a general reason as to why couples choose to break up because relationships are just too complicated.
We are always taught that we have to work hard to get the things we want in life. It’s the same with relationships. They are never going to be easy and we always have to fight hard to make them work. But sometimes, it gets to a point that no amount of effort in the world could even salvage a relationship. It’s at this point where you just have to shake each other’s hands and move on with your individual lives. There’s no point in forcing something that just isn’t meant to be. There’s no point in prolonging the inevitable.
When you’re in a doomed relationship, it can be difficult for you to actually tell that your relationship is just a ticking time bomb. Sometimes, your love or your desperation can blind you and can lead you to believe that even though your relationship is dying, you still have the power to work things out. If you aren’t vigilant enough, you only ever realize that your relationship isn’t meant to be once it’s actually over. And by then, you will have experienced lots of pain, heartache, anguish, and disappointment. Yes, time will eventually heal all wounds but you don’t always have to let things get so bad.
You shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting to end things when you know that things just aren’t going to work out. You shouldn’t be afraid to pull the plug on something that is doomed anyway. That’s why it’s okay for you to just walk away from a dead-end relationship. But the key is in actually figuring out that you’re in a dead-end relationship to start with. If you don’t want to get blindsided by the signs, then you have to develop a sense of self-awareness in your relationship. Here are some red flags that you need to be on the lookout for in your relationship.
1. The relationship stresses you out.
While relationships aren’t exactly strolls in the park, they shouldn’t be leaving you perpetually stressed out. Relationships aren’t designed to be easy, but they’re also not designed to be a major source of your stress. You should be in a relationship that actually helps alleviate your stress. You should be with a partner who wants to help make your life easier. You shouldn’t be constantly at odds with one another.
2. There is a shortage of intimacy in the relationship.
Couples who don’t practice intimacy, affection, or endearment with one another shouldn’t even be considered as couples anymore. You are practically just people who are living your lives in accordance or alongside one another’s. A healthy relationship is always filled with lots of love, affection, and intimacy. When your relationship is devoid of these things, then you can bet that the end is near.
3. You start losing your social life.
If you’re caught in a relationship where you feel constantly isolated from the outside world, then you are stuck in a very toxic relationship indeed. Your social life outside of your relationship shouldn’t have to suffer just because you’re in a supposedly romantic affair with someone. You should still be allowed and encouraged to have a life outside of your relationship.
4. You no longer get your opportunities for alone time.
When you get into a relationship with another person, it’s a given that you should be willing to share a lot of your time with your partner. However, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to give up your time completely. You should still be afforded the opportunity to spend some time by yourself. If your partner doesn’t respect your privacy, then that means you’re not in a healthy relationship at all.
5. Every conversation leads to a fight.
Couples fight. That’s a given. No two people are ever going to get a long a hundred percent of the time. Lots of couples are going to go through disagreements and conflicts. That’s part of the game. But what isn’t normal is when couples just seem to be caught in a perpetual argument. If it’s as if every conversation that you have with one another just leads to another fight, then that’s a relationship that really isn’t going to end well.
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