Most of us enter into relationships just wanting to get some temporary happiness and to have someone fill this lonely space in our lives. We do the bare minimum that’s needed to make this relationship work and when that stops being sufficient, when all the hopes and dreams we had attached to this relationship come crashing down, we are left confused.

We wonder for days what went wrong and why we couldn’t make it work. And we fail to realize how just a little extra effort and a little more persistence could have stopped this from ending badly.

Here are 4 simple practices of couples who have managed to stick together till the end. We hope you can incorporate them into your love lives and make them work out better.

  1. They work on resolving problems

Every couple has fights. You get mad about something. You try to keep it to yourself for a while, waiting for the other person to read your mind and ask you if something’s wrong. And when they’re not able to do that, when they’re not able to be the mind-readers we expect them to be, then you finally decide to unleash your anger. You say horrible things that you don’t even mean and end up doing things that you’ll regret later. And when the storm passes, when you finally calm down, you guys don’t really discuss the root cause of the problem. You already feel guilty about your unfair reaction so you end up keeping the actual problem tucked away in your heart and you let it go with a few simple hugs and a sorry.

Do you see what’s wrong with this situation? You never really discussed what was wrong in the first place. You never had a mature discussion about how to resolve it. And when this happens, the problem is bound to come up again. It is bound to cause another fight and maybe the next time it comes up in this same manner, it won’t just go away with a ‘sorry’. It might just end up being the cause of your final break up.

Couples that last are mature enough to acknowledge their problems. They give their problems the proper time and attention. And they work together on resolving them. 

  1. communicate without hesitation

One of the most important qualities of couples who make their relationship work is open and honest communication. When your partner is talking to you, don’t just maintain a superficial reaction to everything they’re saying. Don’t just nod and listen to what they’re trying to tell you but try to understand it as well. Maintain eye contact when they’re talking to you and don’t disrespect them by constantly fidgeting or checking your phone. And when it’s your turn to talk, don’t limit your conversations to what your favorite movie is or the last time you went to a party.

Talk about your personal views, talk about your emotions, talk about the things that keep you up at night and let them do the same. Give them a tour of the deepest and darkest corners of your mind and heart, and you will see them doing the same. This will not only build your trust in each other, it will also create a much stronger bond between you two.

  1. They create a special moment together every day

When you’ve spent a few months together, when the initial excitement of a relationship is over, and when you’ve realized that this person is now a constant part of your life, you forget to do the things that made you two happy. You stop trying to make each other feel special. And you even forget to share a joke together. Don’t let your relationship fall into this trap of monotony and stagnation. Every day that you’re together, try to do something different, try to make your partner smile and try to keep the excitement alive.

This can be as simple as telling them how beautiful they look today or getting them a bar of their favorite chocolate if they’re not feeling so well. You’ll realize how small gestures like this can go a long way in making your relationship successful.

  1. They reiterate their commitment to each other

If you’ve been with someone long enough (let’s say one or two years), then that is an achievement in itself for you. And you couldn’t have done this alone. You weren’t the only one who was working on this relationship. You were both equally committed to the relationship and couples that last know how to appreciate and value each other for this effort and commitment.

Let your partner know every day how much they mean to you, let them know about all their qualities that make you love them even more and thank them for sticking by you through all the good and the bad times.

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