WRONG REASONS TO GET MARRIED!

1. You must not get married because of lust.

2. Infatuation (Love at first sight- sudden love)

3. Just liking the idea of marriage. It's just like joining the Army because you like the uniform. Nobody joins the army with a promise that he won't go to war.

4. The fear of remaining unmarried(my friends are all married, my sisters are all
married e.t.c)

5. Pressure (parents, friends, etc)

6. Because you want to escape being jilted (if he is the right man/woman, he or she wont jilt you)

7. Getting married for money (money does not guarantee a successful marriage at all.

8. Using marriage as an escape route! [I am tired of mom and dad]

9. Having pity... (feeling sorry for the Man or the Woman.)

10. Foolish Expectation......[Marrying an unbeliever and expecting him/her to change in the course marriage! especially if they don't change before you marry them]

11. Marrying for Beauty or Handsomeness.......[The best time to access a woman properly is absolutely when she wakes up in the morning!] Let him see you as you are Now!!!

12. Accidental PREGNANCY! [Just because you become pregnant along the line doesn't mean you have to bury your destiny there.

13. Tribal Connection [I must marry someone from my town.,,etc...]

14. To satisfy your Parents.

15. Marrying to hurt your Parent

10 COMMANDMENTS FOR ALL THE SINGLE LADIES OUT THERE:

1. Don't be in a hurry to move out of your parent’s house.
2. Don't wait for a man before you start living. You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman. 
3. Stay away from alcohol. It has killed others and you are not special. 
4. Don't entertain wrong numbers calling you, especially late in the night. It's not the right way to find a lover. 
5. Develop a healthy eating habit. Always take breakfast and avoid sweets. 
6. Dress well: impression counts. People will judge you by the way you dress even before they talk to you. 
7. Don't use sex as proof of love. Sex is not a proof for love; he'll still leave you after all that sweet sex. 
8. Don't marry someone because of money; else you'll become one of his possessions. 
9. Add value to yourself, get a career. Don't be fooled that a man will solve all your problems. 
10. Respect yourself depending on your dressing code. This will also show what you, where you come from and many people out there will respect you because of your being descent.

TRUE LOVE from..A Doctor's note

It was approximately 8.30 a.m. on a busy morning
when an elderly gentleman in his eighties arrived
to have stitches removed from his thumb.

He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an
appointment at 9.00 a.m. I took his vital signs
and had him take a seat. I knew it would take
more than an hour before someone would to able
to attend to him. I saw him
check his watch anxiously for the time and
decided to evaluate his wound since I was not
busy with another patient.


On examination, the wound was well healed.
Hence, I talked to one of the doctors to get the
supplies to remove his sutures and redress his
wound. We began to engage in a conversation
while I was taking care of his wound.
I asked him if he had another doctor's
appointment later as he was in such a hurry. The
gentleman told me no and said that he needed to
go to the nursing home to have breakfast with his
wife. I inquired about her health. He told me that
she had been in the nursing home for a while as
she was a victim of Alzheimer's disease. I probed
further and asked if she would be upset if he was
slightly late.
He replied that she no longer knew who he was
and she had not been able to recognize him since
five years ago.

I asked him in surprise, "And you still go every
morning, even though she doesn't know who you
are?"
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She
doesn't know me, but I still know who she is." I
had to hold back my tears as he left.

I had goose bumps on my arm, and I thought,
"That is the kind of love I want in my life."
True love is neither physical nor romantic. True
love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will
be, and will not be !

Paramount LIFE LESSONS

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for things that matter.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose Life.
28. Forgive but don’t forget.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give Time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d
grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you think you need.
42. The best is yet to come…
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Love is the little pieces.....

never ignore person who loves and cares for you...one day you may realize you've lost the moon while counting the stars

It hurts the worst when the person that made you feel so special yesterday, makes you feel so unwanted today...

Trust is the base of any relationship always be careful before doing any little act becouse just missing of "T" can rust the relationship....

I'm officially done trying. If you want me in your life, you can come find me. Until then, continue treating me like I don't exist.

Never Stop Learning, Because Life Never Stops Teaching.....

A long distance relationship isn't hard at all, it's just a matter of trust, commitment and holding on.

Sometimes you can’t Explain what you see In a person. It’s just the way they Take you to a place Where no one else can.

Love isn't having 500 pictures of him/her on ur phone.

Love isn't when u text him/ her day and night.

Love isn't when he/she buys u expensive gifts.

Love isn't when u talk with him/her 24/7

Love isn't when u ditch ur frnds for him/her.

Love is when u do anything to be with him/her even for a short while.

Love is when u just want him/her to be happy.

Love is when u think about him/her 24/7.

Love is when u cant help feeling just a little bit jeaslous when he/she is talking to

other girls/boys and not u.

Love is when u remember the songs you and he/she danced too.

Love is when u can go to him/her at ur worst.

Love is when everything reminds u of him/her.

Love is when u get butterflies just hearing his/her name.

Love is when he/she breaks ur heart and u still love her/him with all

The hardest part of falling in love again, is the fact that you have to start over and fall AGAIN, hoping you don't hit the floor this time.

I've learned a few things about life...

1. everyone lies
2. everyone is fake
3. trust means nothing
4. promises are broken
5. expect the unexpected
6. not everyone will like you
7. you can't please everyone
8. looks are decieving
9. heartbreak happens
10. No matter how much you want something
change, it probably won't

Different Types Of Exes. There Are…

They come in all shapes and sizes, colors and heights, mental and physical states. When the arguments have ceased and the harsh words have settled, your once coveted significant other will transform.

The Angry. Either the breakup was your fault or they just can’t handle failure gracefully. Any mention of your name sends them spiraling into a vortex of rage and disgust. They’ll send you bitter text messages and leave offensive voicemails and eventually drown in a sea of vexation. The passion that once wrapped loving arms around you has turned to utter disgust. Give them time and space and understanding, as love and hate are not too distant of cousins.
The Heartbroken. Either the breakup was their fault or they just don’t know how to handle a lasting love. They’re willing to do anything and say everything to fix what the two of you so fantastically destroyed. You hear from mutual friends of their palpable misery and their debilitating despair and the pain painted on their face. Give them time and space and understanding, as any contact will only prolong their heartbreak.

10 Things Every Woman Should Know About Her Husband

Every man – like every woman – is different, but this may explain what’s going on next time you find him analyzing his fantasy team like his life depends on it. Not included: why he’s taking so long in the bathroom. After all, some things should remain mysteries.

Husbands need to feel needed
“For husbands, not being able to impress your wife from time to time is like Kryptonite for Superman,” says Lois Barth, a relationship and career coach based in New York City. “Just think of the movies most men love to watch: lone hero in the town against the bad guys saving the day. That hero chip is hardwired into most men – as long as we let them be.” Don’t rush to do the jobs you dread just to tick another item off on your to-do list – asking for help can bring you closer.
 
Husbands show their love through actions rather than words
Men aren’t as direct in expressing their love as women, and they aren’t mind readers. They want to know what women like and then give it to them. The more directly you tell him what you crave (“It makes me happy when you surprise me with dinner”) the more likely you are to get it. And when he does show you a bit of what you’re looking for, such as bringing you flowers, making a big deal out of it will help pave the way for repeat behavior in the future. Sure, woman appreciate romantic gestures, but being there when you need him – whether that’s when your car breaks down or your aunt passes away – sometimes says more than blatant declarations of love. After all, a sweet-talking romantic is great, but a husband who doesn’t bail in an emergency is even better.

The secrets of successful relationships

Every relationship  needs a solid foundation if it’s to survive all life can throw at it. This  article looks at the seven essentials that spell success.

1. Love yourself
Unless you love yourself, it’s hard for you to believe that anyone else will.
Self-esteem is important for a healthy relationship. When you truly like yourself, in spite of any failings and weaknesses you may have, you’ll feel confident. And when you feel confident and secure within yourself, you can enjoy being with your partner for the joy they bring to your life, not because you feel you need them to survive.
If you’ve had bad experiences in the past, it’s worth working through these issues with a trusted friend or counsellor. It can be tempting to lean on your partner and rely on them for reassurance, but the stronger you are as an individual, the stronger and more equal your relationship will be